{"id":13663,"date":"2015-04-21T12:58:26","date_gmt":"2015-04-21T19:58:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.momservations.com\/?p=13663"},"modified":"2015-04-21T12:58:26","modified_gmt":"2015-04-21T19:58:26","slug":"a-working-mothers-rant","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/momservations.com\/index.php\/2015\/04\/21\/a-working-mothers-rant\/","title":{"rendered":"A Working Mother&#8217;s Rant"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Momservation: <\/strong>Why do people never ask men how they are able to balance work and family?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">\u263a\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u263a\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u263a<\/p>\n<p>It is time once again to piss and moan about not getting the respect I deserve as WAHM (work-at-home-mom).<\/p>\n<p>As a WAHM, let me give you this small sample of quandary questions that makes me feel invisible, stressed, and misunderstood:<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-13664\" src=\"https:\/\/momservations.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/04\/WAHM-300x212.jpg\" alt=\"WAHM\" width=\"300\" height=\"212\" \/><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Before I get to work should I go work out or do I answer the emails over-flowing my inbox?<\/li>\n<li>Should I take care of the dishes in the sink left by my kids getting ready for school or start the article I didn\u2019t get to yesterday because everyone was out of socks and underwear?<\/li>\n<li>Do I stop to eat something and read the headlines in the paper for a freelance idea or do I use those few minutes to run to the store to get something for dinner?<\/li>\n<li>Do I have time to take a shower before I get the kids from school or should I try to make that deadline because once the kids get home there\u2019s no opportunity to work?<\/li>\n<li>I know today is Marketing Monday, or Typing Tuesday, or Editing Wednesday, or Pitching Thursday, or Finish Up Friday, but do I let another day of volunteer work for my kids\u2019 school take precedence over a work day?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Depending on how I answer these questions I can have a productive day as a freelance writer or as a SAHM (stay-at-home-mom). But rarely is it ever both.<\/p>\n<p>To the outside world I am a mother straddling working and being at home. Is she really working? Is she really taking care of the kids and home? If she\u2019s at home, why isn\u2019t the house spotless, cupboards stocked, meals homemade? Why isn\u2019t she on PTA, the team mom, the soccer chauffer, or organizing fundraisers?<\/p>\n<p>If she\u2019s working why does she have time to volunteer to coach middle school track, organize fundraising drives, be in charge of school merchandising, be a driver for baseball away games, or go to the gym? What is she doing when she\u2019s home all day? What does she have to show for it? Is she making enough to support a family?<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/mariashriver.com\/\">Maria Shriver<\/a>, one of my freelance clients, released <a href=\"http:\/\/http:\/\/shriverreport.org\/special-report\/a-womans-nation-changes-everything\/\">The Shriver Report, A Woman\u2019s Nation\u00a0Changes Everything<\/a> six years ago illuminating women\u2019s expanding multifaceted roles altering the American landscape. So what exactly did this year-long study conclude?<\/p>\n<p>Basically, what we already knew\u2014we women get no respect.<\/p>\n<p>I loved Shriver\u2019s study because it gives validity to my rant that I am a woman stretched at all ends and that I deserve respect for my effort. I am trying to have a successful career while trying to be a good wife, mother, and community supporter.<\/p>\n<p>In a moment of exhaustion, disappointment, and frustration I have landed here: just wanting respect for juggling and balancing this Herculean task of being a WAHM that I deserve.<\/p>\n<p>So when they don\u2019t understand why I say \u201cNo\u201d again to the PTA and Booster Club Nominating Committees and my husband is frustrated that the house is a mess and there\u2019s no dinner planned, I\u2019m going to plunk my friend Maria\u2019s Shriver Report in their laps and say, \u201c<a href=\"http:\/\/shriverreport.org\/special-report\/a-womans-nation-changes-everything\/\">Read a Woman\u2019s Nation Changes Everything<\/a> and get back to me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>#Thanksforlistening<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A moment of exhaustion, disappointment and frustration landed this WAHM here.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":13664,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[1664,1665,1271,1666,2,86,3,713,5,6,14,1361,1667,8],"class_list":["post-13663","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-parenting-2","tag-a-womans-nation-changes-everything","tag-balancing-work-and-motherhood","tag-best-mom-blogs","tag-challenges-of-work-at-home-mothers","tag-family","tag-kelli-wheeler","tag-kids","tag-maria-shriver","tag-momservations","tag-parenting","tag-sahm","tag-teens","tag-the-shriver-report","tag-wahm"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.4 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>A Working Mother&#039;s Rant - Kelli M. 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