{"id":13333,"date":"2019-04-12T07:09:43","date_gmt":"2019-04-12T14:09:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.momservations.com\/?p=13333"},"modified":"2019-04-12T07:09:43","modified_gmt":"2019-04-12T14:09:43","slug":"i-am-so-judgmental","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/momservations.com\/index.php\/2019\/04\/12\/i-am-so-judgmental\/","title":{"rendered":"I Am So Judgmental"},"content":{"rendered":"

Found this little gem from 2014 when my daughter was in junior high. She will be graduating high school in 2 months and going to UC Santa Barbara in the fall. I am happy to report that my little sweet potato survived all my “judgments” and even came to realize that the ol’ Mom-moo is surprisingly perceptive. In fact, I would even say that we’re quite the pals now. As the baby of the family who just turned 18, I finally got to announce: “I did it! I raised likable, contributing, compassionate adults!” I better reserve judgment though – there’s plenty of time to still go off the rails…<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Momservation: <\/strong>A teenager giving life tips to an adult is like the creator of Sponge Bob Square Pants giving Michelangelo advice on painting the Sistine Chapel.<\/p>\n

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\"judgmental\"We have hit a new phase of raising teenagers (they appear to be coming weekly these days).<\/p>\n

I continue to be not amused.<\/p>\n

Especially since my thirteen year-old daughter has deemed me \u201cJudgmental.\u201d<\/p>\n

Yes, a child from the selfie generation that has taken narcissism to unexplored depths; from a demographic whose sole purpose of middle school is to critique everything everyone does and spread gossip about it; from a peer group who cannot make a decision without first consulting everyone in a group chat\u2026has called me judgmental.<\/p>\n

Me, the person who constantly reminds her children (and friends) that you can\u2019t assume to know what it\u2019s like to walk in someone else\u2019s shoes so go easy; Me, the person who refuses to call someone a bad kid\u2014they are \u201cworks in progress\u201d or \u201ccurrently making bad decisions;”\u00a0Me, the person who is trying to model acceptance, bipartisanship, tolerance, and compassion in order to raise decent human beings\u2026was called judgmental by her teenager.<\/p>\n

The irony is so on point here.<\/p>\n

When I ask to see my daughter\u2019s Instagram account (as every parent should be doing) to make sure everything\u2019s looking appropriate she says, \u201cWhy? So you can make all your little judgments?\u201d<\/p>\n

And I say, \u201cThey\u2019re not judgments. They\u2019re observations. Give me your phone.\u201d<\/p>\n

When I pick her up from middle school and I mention anything I notice like: \u201cWow. That guy\u2019s really flirty. Does he always hang on every pretty girl he sees?\u201d<\/p>\n

I get: \u201cGod, Mom! You\u2019re so judgmental! This is why I don\u2019t like you picking me up from school!\u201d<\/p>\n

When I see my daughter wearing an outfit that is borderline dress code violation and I raise an eyebrow in concern, before I can voice an opinion she\u2019ll say, \u201cThere\u2019s that look of judgment.\u201d<\/p>\n

And I\u2019ll say, \u201cNo, that\u2019s my look of go put a tank top on underneath that shirt.\u201d<\/p>\n

So we agree to disagree. What she calls judgmental, I call good parenting. What she sees as annoying\u2026is the person who allows her to have a smart phone. So I guess the new word she\u2019s going to need to learn (the accurate definition of) is: Acceptance.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not backing down on raising good kids, so get over it my little sweet potato.<\/p>\n

#JudgeThis<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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