{"id":13006,"date":"2014-04-08T20:36:49","date_gmt":"2014-04-08T20:36:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.momservations.com\/?p=13006"},"modified":"2014-04-08T20:36:49","modified_gmt":"2014-04-08T20:36:49","slug":"what-is-life-without-a-best-friend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/momservations.com\/index.php\/2014\/04\/08\/what-is-life-without-a-best-friend\/","title":{"rendered":"What is Life Without a Best Friend?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Momservation: <\/b>The greatest validation of self-worth is having a best friend who concurs with your fabulousness.<\/p>\n

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Her name was Robin.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t remember what initially drew me to her, but she must\u2019ve told me I was pretty. Or that I was fast. Maybe because she also hated spiders and touching her feet to the floor in the darkness of the night. It could\u2019ve been that we both liked looking for ladybugs in the tall grass of spring or that we both hated when our older siblings wouldn\u2019t let us tag along. Maybe it was as simple as proximity.<\/p>\n

She was my neighbor. She was my best friend.<\/p>\n

Robin was two years younger than me and five years-old when I met her. I\u2019d just moved into the neighborhood, leaving behind family, friends, and familiarity. I had been sitting on the curb of our new house, waiting for the moving truck to unload my blue bicycle with the banana seat and remaining faded handlebar streamers. As soon as the movers swung open the truck doors revealing my bike, I jumped up to claim the vehicle that would be my escape from the anger and despair that threatened to sour my adoring love for my parents.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t remember asking for permission to ride down the street\u2014these were the days of being home before dark, no other tether tying us to parental supervision. I just remember wishing Monterey wasn\u2019t two hours from Concord so I could ride back home.<\/p>\n

I made it three doors down when I first spotted Robin. She and her twin brother were standing in a green hauling trailer, unhitched in the neighbor\u2019s yard. Standing side-by-side their hands clasping the downward tilted trailer, their matching brown-haired heads and freckled noses followed me as I rode by. Though I only peeked at them in periphery, set on my mission to outride my discontent, I could tell I had an admiring audience.<\/p>\n

A few houses past them I decided to circle back.<\/p>\n

I rode swiftly by, showing them how fast I could pump my legs. I turned back around. This time I stood up as I pedaled, coasting by them evenly perched on my pedals, my long brown hair flowing behind me. I could see them out of the corner of my eye following my movements like a tennis match. If I were my older brother I would have next passed them without hanging onto the handlebars. But deciding to ride up to say hello to these strangers was more my speed of daring courage.<\/p>\n

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My 8th birthday with my best friend Robin at my side (right)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

\u201cWhat\u2019s your name?\u201d I asked, their obvious appreciation of my skills stripping away my shyness.<\/p>\n

\u201cRobin.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cDaniel.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWe\u2019re twins,\u201d Robin added.<\/p>\n

Now I was impressed. \u201cYou don\u2019t look like twins.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cTwins don\u2019t have to look alike. They just have to be born out of their mommy\u2019s tummy at the same time,\u201d said Daniel automatically. I obviously wasn\u2019t the first person to question their validity.<\/p>\n

We continued the kid equivalent to dogs sniffing butts to get to know one another asking, \u201cHow old are you? What grade are you in? Is this your house?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYou wanna see our back yard?\u201d one of them asked after we sized each other up. Once you have name, age, and grade no one is a stranger to a kid.<\/p>\n

\u201cSure,\u201d I shrugged dropping my bike.<\/p>\n

It was fabulous. A swing set. A teeter totter. A dog run with two dogs. A garden and fruit trees. A coop filled with pigeons. A tiered slope with steps and ledges for jumping with a gate at the top that expanded their compact back yard into the sprawling watershed behind their house.<\/p>\n

\u201cI should probably go since my mom doesn\u2019t know where I\u2019m at,\u201d I told Robin after test driving the teeter totter with her. \u201cCan I come back tomorrow?\u201d She nodded and smiled. I liked her freckles.<\/p>\n

I remember thinking it was too bad that Robin was two grades younger than me because I really liked her back yard.<\/p>\n

What I quickly learned over the course of a six year friendship was that age doesn\u2019t matter when you find that person who gets you without need of explanation. That person who you can spend a whole day with and it still doesn\u2019t seem like enough time. That person who is eager to spend time with you because you make them happy. That special someone who even when they get to know everything about you, flaws and all, still think you are their missing half.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s what a best friend is. Having someone out there who loves you even though they don\u2019t have to.<\/p>\n

Robin was my first best friend. She colored my childhood with her presence in every fun and happy memory I have of growing up. She was to me what every kid should be fortunate enough to have: a peer to face the world with, hand-in-hand, heart to heart.<\/p>\n

I lost touch with Robin at a time when I think kids need a best friend the most\u2014junior high. My younger sister died in a tragic accident; my family fell apart; with separate custody we moved away. There was still the telephone and writing letters, but strangely, it turned out proximity did matter. I couldn\u2019t just run down the street anymore for validation.<\/p>\n

Somehow my shattered heart and self-worth survived my life\u2019s biggest transition. Over the years I wondered if the process would\u2019ve been smoother with Robin by my side.<\/p>\n

With the dawn of social media I tried to track down Robin. I found Daniel and their older sister. Life has been challenging for Robin. Daniel told her I was looking for her, but she hasn\u2019t reached back.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t help but think\u2014as much as Robin meant to me, maybe I was more to her than a child could realize.<\/p>\n

While I was busy mourning the loss of a sister and a carefree childhood, it never occurred to me that Robin was likely doing the same. My family had become her family. And in moving on with our lives, trying to find happiness again\u2026we left her behind.<\/p>\n

I just want to tell her I\u2019m sorry. I\u2019m sorry we left her. Having a best friend like Robin was worth trying to hold on to. I\u2019ve never forgotten her. I\u2019ve never stopped valuing her contribution to my life. And after 30 years, she is still dear to my heart as the person who gave me the confidence to like and love myself\u2014because she made it look so easy to like and love me.<\/p>\n

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