{"id":12216,"date":"2013-07-16T13:05:05","date_gmt":"2013-07-16T20:05:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/momservations.wordpress.com\/?p=12216"},"modified":"2013-07-16T13:05:05","modified_gmt":"2013-07-16T20:05:05","slug":"if-i-find-out-you-did-it-you-quit-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/momservations.com\/index.php\/2013\/07\/16\/if-i-find-out-you-did-it-you-quit-it\/","title":{"rendered":"If I Find Out You Did It You Quit It"},"content":{"rendered":"

Momservation: <\/b>Social media: where teenagers go to actually become less social.<\/p>\n

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\""Selfie"<\/a>
“Selfie” away Whit – as long as you follow my rules…<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Big day here at the Wheeler house.<\/p>\n

Whit gets her cast off\u2026AND\u2026is the last in the family to finally get an iPhone (except for the dog, but who knows where Apple will take us next).<\/p>\n

Guess which one is the bigger event?<\/p>\n

Better plug your ears around 2 p.m. because the phone is a surprise for after Whit gets her cast off. The scream could be for what her arm looks like under the cast after 3 weeks (we\u2019ve done 3 of these already and it\u2019s not pretty), but more likely it will be for the coveted phone and the social world it opens up to her.<\/p>\n

\u201cSocial\u201d as in sitting alone in the room with the strongest wi-fi signal taking \u201cselfies\u201d and posting them on Instagram then checking every few seconds to see how many \u201cLikes\u201d it generates.<\/p>\n

Kids these days don\u2019t know social. Social when I was in junior high meant the crazy characters you encountered on the bus on the way to the mall where you went with a flock of girls to look for cute boys and cute accessories (sometimes one in the same), and meeting a bunch of new people trying to bum 20 cents so you could call your mom to come get you instead of taking the bus home.<\/p>\n

So even though Whit finally gets a smart phone, it does come with strings attached so that her world doesn\u2019t get smaller even as she thinks it\u2019s getting bigger.<\/p>\n

Here is my list of 10 Simple Rules for Responsible and Mature Smart Phone Ownership for My Teenager <\/b>or If I Find Out You Did It You Quit It:<\/b><\/p>\n

<\/b>1.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/i><\/b>The phone is not to be used for inappropriate content. <\/b>Yours, theirs, or by association. If you don\u2019t know what stands for \u201cinappropriate\u201d use this test: If Mom was standing over my shoulder right now seeing this would I get my phone taken away? <\/i>So before you go \u201cLiking\u201d that raunchy picture or adding your voice to a foul-mouthed commentary or forwarding anything naked, imagine life without an internet connection because you will be living it.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/i><\/b>You must answer your phone EVERY time I call or text. <\/i><\/b>This, contrary to your social media belief, is why you have a phone and why I pay for its services. If you screen me or I can\u2019t reach you within a reasonable amount of time, not only do you lose the PRIVILEGE of having a phone, I\u2019ll just keep you home where I know where you are and what you\u2019re doing.<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/i><\/b>I take priority over your phone. <\/i><\/b>If I am talking to you, your phone is away. Let it buzz, ping, vibrate, SportsCenter update, and ring-tone Radioactive <\/i>to your pocket, because no matter what I have to say it is always more important. I will not compete with your phone. If I do\u2014just like Vegas you\u2019ll find out the house always wins and your pockets will become much lighter.<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/i><\/b>No phones at the table. <\/b>Meals are family time. We interact. These days, it\u2019s where you actually learn to be social. Your friends are not invited unless they are physically present. If you can\u2019t carry on a decent conversation with your family, then there\u2019s no need for a phone either.<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/i><\/b>Manage your time well. <\/i><\/b>Or I\u2019ll manage it for you. If your phone is taking precedence over school work, chores, extra-curricular activities, or anything else more important (which is almost everything) I will remove the temptation until you realize life goes on without it. If I start to see the top of your head more than your face that is non-stop buried in your phone the management decision will be to make you go cold-turkey on your phone addiction.<\/p>\n

6.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/i><\/b>Make smart purchases.<\/b> Every song, app, and download you purchase will go through my iTunes account and I will see it. You will use your own gift cards and not my credit card on file. If you exceed your limit, you will pay me back and if you can\u2019t control excessive and frivolous uploads I will control it for you by changing the password. Consider this a public service for helping you become a smart consumer.<\/p>\n

7.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/i><\/b>Make smart choices. <\/b>The internet is forever. Everyone can see it. What you put out there and what you do on it leaves a footprint that can\u2019t be erased. So if you think you\u2019re hiding behind SnapChat, erased texts, and deleted content\u2014trust me, it still leaves a trail. Don\u2019t doubt that someone, somewhere has seen it, screen captured it, or still has it on their end. Don\u2019t make a bad choice that can haunt you forever. You get one mistake to learn from with me. Lesson not learned, phone no longer yours.<\/p>\n

8.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/i><\/b>I get all-access privileges. <\/b>I reserve the right at any time to go through your phone and all its content. If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to worry about. If you are deleting selective content and texts I\u2019ll think you\u2019re hiding something which is a problem. If I find something disturbing we\u2019re going to have a problem. If you\u2019re fighting me on this it\u2019s a problem. No phone solves the problem.<\/p>\n

9.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/i><\/b>Cyber-bullying is zero tolerance. <\/b>Using your smart phone as a weapon to hurt someone will not be tolerated. If I find out you used your phone for evil instead of good YOU WILL NEVER OWN A PHONE AGAIN UNTIL YOU ARE AN ADULT and YOU WILL NEVER AGAIN HAVE UNSUPERVISED INTERNET ACCESS.<\/p>\n

10. <\/i><\/b>Using your smart phone while driving is zero tolerance. <\/i><\/b>There is nothing so important on that phone that it is worth your life. If you put your life or anyone else\u2019s at risk because of your phone you will lose the privilege of driving, the privilege of a phone, and the privilege of my trust.<\/span><\/p>\n

Other than that\u2026have fun with your new iPhone Whit!\u00a0<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

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